Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage

Marriage a History How Love Conquered Marriage Just when the clamor over traditional marriage couldn t get any louder along comes this groundbreaking book to ask What tradition In Marriage a History historian and marriage expert Stephanie Coon

  • Title: Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage
  • Author: Stephanie Coontz
  • ISBN: 9780143036678
  • Page: 171
  • Format: Paperback
  • Just when the clamor over traditional marriage couldn t get any louder, along comes this groundbreaking book to ask, What tradition In Marriage, a History, historian and marriage expert Stephanie Coontz takes readers from the marital intrigues of ancient Babylon to the torments of Victorian lovers to demonstrate how recent the idea of marrying for love is and how absJust when the clamor over traditional marriage couldn t get any louder, along comes this groundbreaking book to ask, What tradition In Marriage, a History, historian and marriage expert Stephanie Coontz takes readers from the marital intrigues of ancient Babylon to the torments of Victorian lovers to demonstrate how recent the idea of marrying for love is and how absurd it would have seemed to most of our ancestors It was when marriage moved into the emotional sphere in the nineteenth century, she argues, that it suffered as an institution just as it began to thrive as a personal relationship This enlightening and hugely entertaining book brings intelligence, perspective, and wit to today s marital debate.

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    1. چقدر خوشحالم که اتفاقی با این کتاب آشنا شدم و تصمیم گرفتم بخونمشموضوعاتی وجود دارند که شاید انقدر در روزمره مخفی شدند که واقعا به نظر نمیاد در موردشون اونقدر که باید نمی دونیماصولا فکر می کنیم همیشه همینطور بوده یا حداکثر چیزهایی که از بزرگ ترها شنیدیم رو به عنوان گذشته در نظ [...]

    2. And to think I could have taken a course with Stephanie Coontz back in the day when I was a student at The Evergreen State College Alas, I was not interested in the history of the family then.Now as a Lit prof how I wish I had. Teaching works like 'Trifles,' 'A Doll House,' 'The Yellow Wallpaper,' stories by Kate Chopin and others which center on marriage, I find myself constantly trying to correct students' notions of marriage in history. Many of them really do believe that marriage as we know [...]

    3. Reminds me of just how culturally marginal intellectuals are in general--not just queer ones. The traits that probably make this book accessible and engaging for a mass audience drive me wild on a scholarly level. I want citations!! And really, I'm not solicited by the cuteness of chapter titles like "Soap Operas of the Ancient World." I suppose the first two sections, which offer a sort of cross-cultural & historical context for white bourgeois Western marriage norms, are well-intentioned. [...]

    4. I borrowed this book from our local library. It wasn't recommended or out on display, and I honestly am not sure why I picked it up, but I'm glad I did.Jammed packed with interesting tidbits, Coontz has put together a tremendous history of marriage, which in the process examines not only the evolution of marriage and its role in society but also the changing ideas about men and women and their relationship to each other.She starts by talking about how people have this tendency to believe things [...]

    5. Marriage is one of those things that doesn't appeal to me on a personal level. I think it's fine and dandy that people choose to get married, but in my own little world it's never really been something I consider an important task to complete. This doesn't mean I don't believe in monogamy or commitment. I've been with the same man for 11 years now, we've lived together pretty much as long, and marriage is just not a road we will be taking. We are also not having children. We may be that "small" [...]

    6. If you don't have time to read this amazing academic history of marriage, here is the Cliffnotes version: "traditional marriage" lol Her treatment of Victorian-era sexuality and marriage was absolutely riveting. You can skip ahead to that part, I won't judge you. My only complaint (and it's a small, nitpicky polypoint) is that while she presents a lot of disparate pieces of information about monogamy, multiple marriages, as well as more fluid arrangements, she neglects to weave them together to [...]

    7. This book may be of interest to those who have not studied the history of marriage in the western world. Certainly, it offers a good overview of how the institution of marriage has changed and adapted over the centuries in response to larger cultural, political, and socioeconomic changes. However, the book suffers from several flaws. First it is too ambitious and ultimately bites off more than it can chew. The result is important topics such as Christianity's responses to changing attitudes abou [...]

    8. In general I have a very conservative opinion on marriage, and though this well-researched and convincingly written book enlarged my perspective, it did not change my view that "traditional" marriage is the ideal. I don't know that Coontz so much intended to dismiss that view, as to help readers realize that my traditional ideal is not "how it's always been," and certainly isn't how it always will be.The bulk of the book traces the gradual change in marriage, from its long existence as the econo [...]

    9. A trip through the history of marriage, from its earliest beginnings in prehistory to the present day. What is "traditional marriage?" It takes an entire volume to do justice to the complete answer.Marriage started as a way for families, tribes, and villages to form alliances and secure aid during hard times. Who is more likely to help you in times of need: a stranger, or family? Marriage made family out of strangers, and in the days before government, individual tribes and villages had to look [...]

    10. This is one of my favorite books on the history of marriage, though it's not without its flaws. Coontz does an excellent job of taking a wide range of scholarly work and summing it up for a public audience. Through a discussion of marriage dating back to the ancient times, Coontz demonstrates that our current conception of marriage-for-love is a recent invention. Rather, marriage for the majority of history was an institution that was entered into for practical and pragmatic reasons, an institut [...]

    11. This is a fascinating, compelling, well-written, and lucid history of marriage. It's the fun kind of history book - the kind with enough anecdotes to make the individual pages fun and enough meat to give your brain something to chew. (Eeek, that metaphor needs to be put out of its misery. I promise I won't do that again this review.) This book is a must-read for everyone who is concerned with the current status of marriage - the divorce rate, gay marriage, traditional family values, whatever. An [...]

    12. A history of marriage and also womens rights. Great storytelling and research. It could have been so much better--there was too little analysis and too much detail and history.

    13. This is probably my favorite non-fiction book that I've ever read. I want to shove this book into the hands of everyone who clutches their pearls and laments the death of the "traditional" family. The author slowly and meticulously details the history of (mostly Western) marriage. Of note for the pearl clutchers, the marriage of the 1950s is noted to be an "unprecedented marriage system" that "was the climax of almost two hundred years of continuous tinkering with the male protector love-based m [...]

    14. As a history book, this is pretty decent, although the title should really be "A History of Marriage in the Western World," since she mostly focuses on marriage in Europe and America. I read the whole book, which wasn't the easiest thing to do, since it is a history book and I was compelled to take notes on everything. Throughout the book, Coontz kept mentioning how marriage was hard in the modern world, and I kept waiting for some practical advice about this. When it finally came, I was infuria [...]

    15. Stephanie Coontz does an excellent job of explaining that all the stereotypes about marriage today are largely the products of long and gradual social and economic factors over time. Now, instead of arguing about marriage in a bar based on my instincts, I have Coontz's data to back me up.Although the book is largely history, some of the most interesting stuff comes at the end, when she demonstrates with data that a lot of stereotypes about highly educated women either never get married or experi [...]

    16. I was actually reading this book when my husband and I decided to run off and elope. Which is funny, because the history of marriage is something your average modern woman wants nothing to do with!But what is so great about this book is the way that it contextualizes our current obsession with a 1950s marriage and "family values" in a much larger history. Turns out (surprise surprise) that marriage meant something very different in Medieval times, and something very different again in the 18th C [...]

    17. What a stimulating and worthwhile read. It took me a while, but I'm glad I stayed with it. The writing, though dense and detailed, is accessible and engaging. And I think this is a great topic.In this ambitious book, Stephanie Coontz takes us through the history of marriage from early days until today. In early times marriage was an entirely practical decision. It was a necessary way to organize the sharing of labor, since survival necessitated more than one person's efforts. As societies became [...]

    18. As an amateur historian, and one intensely fascinated with history, I found this title by Stephanie Coontz to be a perfect combination of accurate history--and why attitudes prevailed during various eras of the world's history. Why marriage was never about love, until a certain point in history, makes complete sense to me now. I listened to the audible edition and can't help but give the narrator, Callie Beaulieu, 5-stars on her own. The content is a 5-star read, whether in print or audible edit [...]

    19. If you judge this book by its cover, you will probably hit the mark: the queer reader must wade through lots of heterosexism to find nuggets of interest. The author’s feminist lens falls short because it isn’t in the least bit intersectional. With that said, it’s worth reading for a fascinating, thorough account of marriage as an institution over time.

    20. Reading Coontz's work is always a breath of fresh air. She's grounded in thorough historical and sociological research, and she scrupulously avoids any inflammatory rhetoric -- she's the antidote to moral panic around family, marriage, etc. She points out that that, while people have always fallen in love, only recently, and in Western culture, has this been seen as necessary or even a desirable basis for a marriage (15).Coontz demonstrates convincingly that what some on the right call "traditio [...]

    21. Stephanie Coontz’s Marriage, A History: What Tradition?fangswandsandfairydust/201Audiobook provided by publisher for review. No remuneration was exchanged and all opinions presented herein are my own except as noted.As someone who reads a love of romance, and a lot of romance wherein marriage is the HEA, a book on marriage presents a really tempting read. I often wonder if marriage at any time before the 20th century was about love or if the books I read, and the movies I see, are all foolish [...]

    22. I think this is an excellent overview of the history of marriage through the ages and across many cultures (though, probably reasonably, Coontz does devote a pretty big poprtion of the book to the evolution of the modern institution in America), and is a good amount of food for thought when thinking about how marriage is viewed today.I think it is admirable that despite the fact that the question of what marriage is and has been in the past is currently (and, if the book is to be believed, has b [...]

    23. History makes so much more sense now.Everyone knows that you didn't marry for love in Ye Olden Days because It Was a Business Transaction and You Should be Glad with What You Got. But the idea of marriage is intrinsically wrapped around emotion today, and no matter how many times you hear that marrying for love is a recent thing, I've never seen marriage portrayed as anything but--as in, no matter what period of history you lived in, you still viewed marriage as emotional.So now, having read thi [...]

    24. Well, I learned from this book that the conception of marriage that my generation has inherited is mostly from the 1950's. (yes, to be fair I should say it's my conception of marriage, but I really don't think I'm alone in holding it.) I was quite surprised by the number of features of marriage I thought to be old-fashioned which were from a recent high-water mark of the male-breadwinner love-choice marriage. I am reading up on marriage these days to understand our cultural background for the ga [...]

    25. Stephanie Coontz makes the case that the current condition of marriage in our culture is an inevitable destination from the confluence of social forces at work since the Middle Ages (Western culture). Although sampling Eastern culture and tribes (mostly as proof of the great diversity of partnership contracts possible), it is primarily focussed on the Western marriage and transformation of the marriage contract socially and politically. The list of expectations we have of our partnerships grows, [...]

    26. According to Coontz's popular survey, perhaps the most "traditional" thing about marriage is its ongoing renegotiations—its shifting iterations, its changing role in the structure of society, and the changing expectations people have when they enter into, suffer through, enjoy, or terminate a marriage relationship.The book begins with some of the mythical, anthropological, and common-sense theories of the origins of marriage, moves into the high-stakes dramas of the ancient world of a few cent [...]

    27. Hmmmm. I just couldn't get very far in this. Firstly, the title bothers me greatly. Has love conquered marriage? I think not. Maybe some people are able to choose whom they marry, but not most. Even in the places/spaces where love has supposedly conquered marriage, I would say marriage is more about societal/familial pressures and expectations. Or the need for health care. Or the desire for that pink Kitchen Aid mixer. I find the history of marriage interesting, but I guess being of the age wher [...]

    28. En estos tiempos donde existen grupos radicales intentando defender a toda costa la idea absurda de una "familia natural" y, por consiguiente, un sagrado matrimonio heterosexual, hacen falta dos antídotos: biología para comprender que la naturaleza es más compleja que lo que la religión afirma sobre ella (y que en realidad lo antinatural es hacer de la sexualidad una institución) e historia, para entender que el matrimonio ha cambiado a través de la historia, que los preceptos bajo los cua [...]

    29. This book made me extraordinarily happy that I am married in the time and place that I am. Koontz does a stellar job of tracing the history of marriage from earliest recorded history to the present. I wish she had either given more time to non-Western marriages or made it plain early on that her history applies primarily to the Western world. That aside, this is a book well worth reading.

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