The Turkish Lover: A Memoir

The Turkish Lover A Memoir Enthralled admirers of Esmeralda Santiago s memoirs of her childhood have yearned to read Now in The Turkish Lover Esmeralda finally breaks out of the monumental struggle with her powerful mother o

  • Title: The Turkish Lover: A Memoir
  • Author: Esmeralda Santiago
  • ISBN: 9780306814518
  • Page: 429
  • Format: Paperback
  • Enthralled admirers of Esmeralda Santiago s memoirs of her childhood have yearned to read Now, in The Turkish Lover, Esmeralda finally breaks out of the monumental struggle with her powerful mother, only to elope into the spell of an exotic love affair At the heart of the story is Esmeralda s relationship with the Turk, a passion that gradually becomes a prison ouEnthralled admirers of Esmeralda Santiago s memoirs of her childhood have yearned to read Now, in The Turkish Lover, Esmeralda finally breaks out of the monumental struggle with her powerful mother, only to elope into the spell of an exotic love affair At the heart of the story is Esmeralda s relationship with the Turk, a passion that gradually becomes a prison out of which she must emerge to become herself The expansive humanity, earthy humor, and psychological courage that made Esmeralda s first two books so successful are on full display again in The Turkish Lover.

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    1. How come our generation does not ask for "la bendicion"? I still hear my mother asking for it from my grandfather and her uncles. I loved this book, although at times I wanted to scream at her for staying with Ulvi and putting up with his shit for so long. But, I can also understand her situation. She is who she is because of what she has been through. I can identify with that. Great story--I love the spanish throughout the novel and references to our culture. I miss P.R.

    2. ISBN 0738208205 - I often wondered, as I read this book, whether it was among the most self-serving blather I'd read in ages or one of the best books I'd read in years. Really, what's more self-serving than immortalizing your own existence in a book? And how much better when that book makes a former lover, who treated you poorly, look like a fool - repeatedly? In the end, though, the answer is - one of the best books I've read in years! If the periodic Spanish phrase intimidates the English-read [...]

    3. I absolutely loved this book, and I love Esmeralda Santiago. I wish I could run into her on the street so I could buy her a cup of coffee and ply her with questions for a half hour. Like her other memoirs, she writes this one with complete honesty and as much objectivity as she can muster. In some ways, I can relate to her situation, which probably colors my view on the matter, but it is more than the similarities that speak to me.In this book, Santiago continues to explore what it means to be b [...]

    4. Sinopsis:"Esta memoria es la apasionante historia de una peligrosa y exótica relación amorosa.Esmeralda Santiago se destaca entre las principales escritoras latinas de hoy. Sus fieles lectores y lectoras han esperado cinco largos años por el más reciente capítulo de una historia que comenzó con sus memorias Cuando era puertorriqueña y Casi una mujer.En El amante turco, Santiago finalmente se desprende y supera la intensa lucha con su madre sólo para caer subyugada por Ulvi, un sofisticad [...]

    5. This is not the type of book I would pick up and I am extremely critical of memoirs. However a lady at work gave it to me to read knowing I was a traveled and learned woman. Santiago captures the essence of Puerto Rican culture and paints a vivid story of her life with her Turkish love interest. I found myself identifying with her a lot in the relationship she had with Ulvi. The idea that the love you create as a wall to protect you can easily become a prison you want to escape. It is only by tr [...]

    6. This author is my personal favorite. Sharing the same culture, I can immediately relate and register what she's saying as feelings I've had myself. I always like to read her work in spanish but I read it in english and felt that she had really evolved to be ale to express herself JUST as powerfully in both languages. Her previous books I enjoyed in spanish because I know as a Puerto Rican spanish speaker, it would resinate with me even more so by having that flow that can be kinda butchered when [...]

    7. I'm so glad I read this book. It's a continuation of, "Almost a Woman" about life for the next six years with Ulvi. Her life with the mysterious, chauvinistic Ulvi takes her across the country. She lands in Lubbock, TX, Syracuse, NY, and Boston, MA. Her writing remains honest and simple to read. It's amazing to witness her growth and transformation from Ulvi's 'Chiquita', to her own, true Esmeralda. While, "Almost a Woman" was a coming-of-age novel, this one can be labeled as a growing-into-woma [...]

    8. How is it that powerful, fiery, smart, beautiful young women give up so much of who they really are for (controlling) men?As this book unfolds, it's great to see how Esmeralda begins to stand up for herself and grow. And the writing is good--makes you want to turn the page.

    9. Si estuviera en la situación de Negi no me gustaría tener que ver a tus padres discutir todo el tiempo y sobre todo porque terminaron separándose. Amo a mis padres y estoy tan acostumbrada a que sean tan tiernos el uno con el otro y siempre viéndolos juntos, así que si eso sucediera las cosas simplemente cambiarían, como si todo fuera diferente y no me gustaría. Cuando los padres discuten les duele más a los niños porque son las personas que aman y aprenden de. Otra cosa es que Negi tuv [...]

    10. Esmeralda Santiago comparte casi diez años de su vida con el lector. La autobiografía se centra en su prueba para establecer su identidad frente a las fuerzas de la cultura de las puertorriqueñas y su “amante truco”, Ulvi. Su madre quiere que ella se case con “velo y cola”, sea una mujer puertorriqueña domestica que se preocupe sobre lo que “dirá la gente.” Ulvi, su novio maltratador y manipulador, quiere que ella sea una mujer ideal también, pero que ella sea sofisticada y mod [...]

    11. Esmeralda Santiago comparte casi diez años de su vida con el lector. La autobiografía se centra en su prueba para establecer su identidad frente a las fuerzas de la cultura de las puertorriqueñas y su “amante truco”, Ulvi. Su madre quiere que ella se case con “velo y cola”, sea una mujer puertorriqueña domestica que se preocupe sobre lo que “dirá la gente.” Ulvi, su novio maltratador y manipulador, quiere que ella sea una mujer ideal también, pero que ella sea sofisticada y mod [...]

    12. A beautiful memoir that proves that even smart, independent women can be caught in a unhealthy relationship. Santiago's tale is very candid and touched me deeply. I loved the depiction of Puerto Rican culture, our rich heritage, and how difficult it must have been and is for the many Puerto Ricans who come to mainland looking for a better / different life. Many times they can assimilate, sometimes they can't and return to the island, and other times they are suspended in a world somewhere in bet [...]

    13. This is the memoir of Esmeralda Santiago, a young Puerto Rican woman who leaves her home and family to be with her Turkish lover, "el hombre que yo amo". He is domineering, yet she doesn't seem able to break his power over her.

    14. Este libro es como escuchar una y otra vez a esa amiga tuya que no importa cuanto la maltrate el novio siembre vuelve con el, de flojera total :(Es increible que la autora a sus cinquenta y tantos aun no lo supera, mira que hasta hacer un libro uff!

    15. FreedWhy do some men try to crush the very thing that attracts them to some women?Why do women give up all that is powerful about us just because some dude has the talent to abuse the power of love (or lust)?I can't answer that because I have been in too many relationships where men belittled me and controlled me. I'm glad Ms. Santiago broke free of her prison.

    16. So far the book is very interesting as most books are on male/female relationships. We have a young Puerto Rican women and a man seventeen years her senior. Esmeralda leaves her family in Brooklyn to follow her Turkish lover, Ulvi to Florida. Things go well until his colleagues find out he's a fraud and cuts off the financial support. Esmeralda continues to support Ulvi by working odd jobs. He is always in control of the finances. In spite of a few separations she continues to see him. Eventuall [...]

    17. Well written and evocative, and especially gripping towards the end when the author starts to break away from her controlling partner and begins to make a life for herself. I know this is just one volume in the series of memoirs that Santiago is writing, but some of the loose ends in the narrative drove me nuts. For instance, her beloved cousin disappears and "I would not hear from her again until 25 years later." but the book ends before those 25 years have passed, so the reader is never aware [...]

    18. I enjoyed this book. It definitely highlights the complexity of abusive as well as interracial relationships. I do recommend this book because of the different perspective it provides, however Santiago's writing is repetitive. During my read I found myself losing interest because I felt the book was stalling and bringing back ideas that were heavily discussed in previous chapters. Still a great read, however!

    19. The Turkish Lover is Santiago's 3rd memoir and it picks up where Almost a Woman left off. In this memoir, Santiago tells of her experiences of leaving the shelter of her mother's home and moving away with her older Turkish lover. Her life with her Turkish lover is full of loneliness and estrangement. He takes total control of her life and tries to keep her as the innocent young girl that he first met. I didn't enjoy this memoir quite as much as I liked her first two.

    20. My favourite fiction author. I have since purchased the other books this author has published through and are yet to read them. I'm saving Esmeralda's novels for when I take a long boring trip somewhere and need a well written, interesting fiction book. Good break from biographies if you are a keen reader of those as I am.The book is centered on the main characters large families life together and her involvement with an older man who is not all he seems.

    21. Esmeralda Santiago's third installment in her series of memoirs. Not as beautiful as "When I Was Puerto Rican" but a good story nonetheless. It gave me a new insight into abusive relationships. Even when the abuse is not the constant and severe physical abuse that we hear about on the news it still takes its toll. In this book Esmeralda Santiago is able to break free from her low expectations of herself to go on to become the successful and creative author we all know and love.

    22. Interesting read. I've had this book for years and just recently decided to read it. Esmerelda Santigo is the Latin version of Maya Angelo in the sense that she has done so much in her life, that she could quite honestly put out a memoir every year and still have fresh stuff to talk about. I think this book speaks to those of us who remember life before they found their voice and for those in search if their voice.

    23. A 21-year-old gal leaves her mom a note a flies with her older boyfriend to Florida. Her mom comes to get her, she declines. Turns out the boyfriend is a hustler and his business associates cut him off. She has to return to NYC for a job and then guys, he hustles in Europe. This goes on for seven years as she gives him her youth and he is not even nice to her. Occasional insight into the human condition.

    24. After re-reading her memoir, When I Was Puerto Rican, I was looking forward to the The Turkish Lover. It is a characteristically well-written narrative, but the story fell flat. I felt like I spent most of the book waiting for her to rid herself of that Turkish lover. Frustratingly, the smart and precocious child/adolescent in When I Was Puerto Rican is somehow to a needy young woman in a codependent relationship. I expected something else from Santiago.

    25. Esmeralda Santiago is always a fun narrator – honest, expressive, irreverent – and I’ve enjoyed getting to know her through the stages of her life. In this one, there were moments when I just wanted to holler at her, “Let him go! He’s no good for you, woman!” And she actually knew this the whole time. But this memoir deals with the all-too-common tendency of women to keep running back to the Wrong Guy. It’s a good study of romantic fascination.

    26. Though the author, Esmeralda Santiago, has led an interesting life, and overcome many struggles in her life, I didn't feel her story was compelling enough to recommend this book. Her story is small and personal, and she writes in a way that keeps one interested enough to keep reading, but it didn't have any resonance with me.

    27. The way Esmeralda writes about her memoirs it made me keep submerging myself into it. I didn't want to stop reading, and I didn't want it to stop right where it did at the end. Great book! but it's even better if you read When I was Puerto Rican, and then Almost a Woman before the The Trukish Lover, since it makes a great chronological sense.

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