A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix

A Failure of Nerve Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix Ten years after his death Edwin Friedman s insights into leadership are urgently needed than ever He was the first to tell us that all organizations have personalities like families and to apply th

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  • Title: A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix
  • Author: Edwin H. Friedman Edward W. Beal Margaret M. Treadwell
  • ISBN: 9781596270428
  • Page: 107
  • Format: Paperback
  • Ten years after his death, Edwin Friedman s insights into leadership are urgently needed than ever He was the first to tell us that all organizations have personalities, like families, and to apply the insights of family therapy to churches and synagogues, rectors and rabbis, politicians and teachers Failure of Nerve is essential reading for all leaders, be they paTen years after his death, Edwin Friedman s insights into leadership are urgently needed than ever He was the first to tell us that all organizations have personalities, like families, and to apply the insights of family therapy to churches and synagogues, rectors and rabbis, politicians and teachers Failure of Nerve is essential reading for all leaders, be they parents or presidents, corporate executives or educators, religious superiors or coaches, healers or generals, managers or clergy Friedman s insights about our regressed, seatbelt society, oriented toward safety rather than adventure, help explain the sabotage that leaders constantly face today Suspicious of the quick fixes and instant solutions that sweep through our culture only to give way to the next fad, he argues for strength and self differentiation as the marks of true leadership His formula for success is maturity, not data stamina, not technique and personal responsibility, not empathy This book was unfinished at the time of Friedman s death, and originally published in a limited edition This new edition makes his life changing insights and challenges available to a new generation of readers.

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    1. This was a fantastic book on leadership. You have to wade through some evolutionary hooey, but if you make the necessary adjustments, the central points are simply strengthened. This is a truly contrarian view of leadership that is wise -- as opposed to simply being mule-headed.

    2. This was a hard book to read bc it included a lot of technical jargon and hair-splitting of terms and ideas that was difficult to follow. But the main point seems to be that in order to be a strong leader, you don't need to know every program, be able to motivate others, or use whatever the latest technique is--but instead you need to become a healthy person emotionally. This means that you are differentiated from others-- you are able to maintain your own boundaries and be your own person while [...]

    3. One of the most compelling and clarifying books I've read in a long time. Though I wouldn't use the Friedman's vocabulary, agree with his evolutionary presumptions, or have anywhere near his positivity apart from the gospel, I'd still say the Rabbi asks great questions that every leader (husband, father, pastor, boss, president, etc.) should consider. ——————Read again and discussed with the TEC elders through 2013. Fantastic material for a leadership team, as long as that team alread [...]

    4. Great book with lots of wisdom to be learned. You must wade through some evolution hooey to get it, though.

    5. Edwin Friedman's last book, A Failure of Nerve: Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix, is a highly frustrating read. He has a very good idea, wrapped in an unfortunate analogy that has metastasized into its own Idea. Friedman's core idea, the very good idea, is this:When I fail to distinguish "who I am" from the organizations to which I belong, then I begin to identify more with the organization than I do with my own principles and goals. As a consequence, I lose the capacity to challenge the w [...]

    6. This is my go-to book for growing a backbone and beating back anxiety. I use it weekly as a touchstone for my own health and integrity.

    7. This is a book I’m constantly going back to. For more than a decade I’ve listened to the lecture that served as some of the manuscript for this book before Friedman died suddenly. This has been one of the most important books I’ve read to guide me as a pastor and parent. I consider his wisdom sage like, timeless. We often go about in the world unaware of our lack of boundaries, or complicit about others’ lack of boundaries and responsibility. Leadership at home and work requires truth te [...]

    8. I am going to liberally estimate that I only understood 70% of this book. It describes a countercultural view of leadership to my millennial twenty-something norms/views. Although a Friedman is a Jew, the leader he described seemed a lot like Jesus. Self-differentiated leadership - that’s the direction I want to head in.I’d have to read the book a second time to tell you anymore about it.

    9. Friedman's insights are gold if you can integrate them into a Biblical framework. He attempts to root his anthropological findings in evolution and ends up with a weak substructure for WHY relationships and conflict are the way they are. If you are a pastor or leader of any kind, you need to read this along with Rene Girard's mimetic/conflict/envy paradigm.

    10. Everything you think you know about leadership is wrong. A leader is not one who knows how to develop vision. A leader is not someone who can team-build. A leader is not the guy with expertise. A leader is not the guy with the best personality.Friedman teaches that a good leader can lack all of those things. All of them. Friedman teaches that a truly good leader is a person who can self-differantiate and maintain a non-anxious, non-reactive presence. The book unpacks what those principles are al [...]

    11. I had read Friedman's Generation to Generation sometime ago and was interested in this follow up book that applies his systems thinking to leadership, anxiety, and stress. Does his systems approach really apply across different cultures, different kinds of organizations, to different times of history, across gender lines, and other distinctions as he insists? I'm still thinking about that, but I do appreciate his view of leadership as non-anxious presence, the importance of attending to the emot [...]

    12. I had heard from many that I needed to read this book. I really enjoyed the beginning and the end. Friedman kind of lost me in the middle with the analogy that he used throughout the book.But I think that anyone who has worked in a place with some conflict (especially the church world) will find it very helpful.

    13. I was first introduced to the thinking of Edwin Friedman over 20 years ago while reading Generation to Generation, a work that applied Bowen's Family Systems Theory to the life of churches and synagogues. I had found his insights to be helpful in all organizations, religious or not. So I was happy to find this unfinished work by Rabbi Friedman which takes his same theories and applied them to organizational leadership. Essentially, Friedman sees organizational life through the lenses of emotiona [...]

    14. This is an excellent book on leadership. The author suggests that the core issue in any kind of leadership context is that of the leader managing their own anxieties. The key to being an "effective leader" will not be found in "team building", being more empathetic, offering more well reasoned reason, gaining more data nor new techniques. The key to leadership is to be found in the leader's own self-differentiation. Self-Differentiation is not coercive, reactive, being invasive or selfish. This [...]

    15. This was a good book about the need for a paradigm shift in leadership. It uses a lot of technical jargon, but basically is saying leadership isn't about being able to motivate people or stop criticism. To the author, criticism is a sign that leadership is being done correctly and it should be expected. It is about being emotionally healthy, so the leader can be present and a part of those she or he is leading and yet able to be distinct from them and make decisions based on his or her own emoti [...]

    16. A successor to Generation to Generation, A Failure of Nerve applies principles of systems theory to leadership in families, organizations, and nations. A Failure of Nerve is unique among books on leadership. Instead of methods and technique, Friedman focuses on where the leader stands in the emotional system and the critical nature of self-definition (differentiation), which requires "nerve," or a non-anxious presence. Particularly interesting is Friedman's take on the emotional regression of th [...]

    17. It took me awhile to get through this book, not because it was tedious or boring, but because I found myself reading a section or a chapter and then pondering it for a time before moving on. Friedman's work is brilliant, getting at how systems--both biological and relational--are created to work and how leaders can work within those systems. This is a valuable book for leaders from "parents to presidents". I wish this book had been required reading in my seminary coursework. It's going straight [...]

    18. As the title would suggest, this book runs against the mould of leadership books that tell you what to do. The principal concept of self-differentiation is illustrated applied developed in a range of ways but you still have to make the decisions yourself about how to apply it. A great analysis of an anxious society, insecure people and how to lead in this context.

    19. Good summary of Friedman I enjoyed the pace and purpose of this book. I have read previous books by him 15 years ago in grad school. This book laid out the fundamentals and provide me moments to consider my own experience. I wish there were more case studies.

    20. Read for a book club. Don't know if I would've made it through otherwise. While reading this book, I vacillated between speed reading due to being bored out of my mind, and thinking what I was reading was incredible. Lots of helpful nuggets, but his writing was too technical for me.

    21. So conflicted!!! Some of this I love, but some is hard, and I hate it because of that, but some is perhaps wrong, and I'm aware of that too. A fascinating read.

    22. At the advice of a friend, I just finished reading Edwin Friedman’s Failure of Nerve - Leadership in the Age of the Quick Fix . It’s not an easy read, but one very worth the investment, particularly if you are in leadership in any capacity.The premise of the book is the very observable phenomenon of the anxiety of the most dysfunctional members of any family or organization being allowed not just to influence but to rule. This has grown into a world-view and Friedman attacks it – as the pr [...]

    23. This was a good read. It challenged my preconceived notions of leadership and made me think outside of the box. I wonder at his tracing human interaction back to cellular interaction, but OK, he is the expert.In this book on leadership, I will describe a similar “failure of nerve” affecting American civilization today. But, I will add, when anxiety reaches certain thresholds, “reasonableness and honesty” no longer defend against illusion, and then even the most learned ideas can begin to [...]

    24. For Edwin Friedman, "leadership" is a function of evolutionary progress, the thing that caused prokaryotes to differentiate from eukaryotes, all the way to the present as the thing we need to advance as a species. He starts talking about "evolution" on page two, and doesn't stop until the end of the book. Every one of the basic components in his explication of "leadership" are understood in this framework of "evolution." The basic problem in societies is "regression" a term that he defines as "c [...]

    25. For the most part, this book is amazing. It's full of the kinds of ideas that make my brain feel like it's been picked up and turned in a different direction. I feel refreshingly disoriented, as though the world holds more possibilities than I realized.The pages of the library copy I read are porcupined with neon-colored paper flags as I tried to mark all of the passages I wanted to quote, especially from the first five chapters, which apply family systems theory to explain why there are problem [...]

    26. "As with any chronically anxious family, there is in American society today an intense quickness to interfere in another's self-expression, to overreact to any perceived hurt, to take all disagreement too seriously, and to brand the opposition with ad hominem personal epithets (chauvinist, ethnocentric, homophobic, and so on). As in personal families, this hardens hearts and leaves little room for forgiveness or balanced accommodation." - p 64-65

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