Love Illuminated: Exploring Life's Most Mystifying Subject (With the Help of 50,000 Strangers)

Love Illuminated Exploring Life s Most Mystifying Subject With the Help of Strangers As the editor of the New York Times popular Modern Love column Daniel Jones is privy to the deepest personal revelations of tens of thousands of strangers In Love Illuminated he uses his unique pers

  • Title: Love Illuminated: Exploring Life's Most Mystifying Subject (With the Help of 50,000 Strangers)
  • Author: DanielJones
  • ISBN: 9780062211170
  • Page: 357
  • Format: Paperback
  • As the editor of the New York Times popular Modern Love column, Daniel Jones is privy to the deepest personal revelations of tens of thousands of strangers In Love Illuminated, he uses his unique perspective to tease apart life s most mystifying subject.Drawing from the 50,000 tales of love that have crossed his desk, Jones traces the arc of human relationships through tAs the editor of the New York Times popular Modern Love column, Daniel Jones is privy to the deepest personal revelations of tens of thousands of strangers In Love Illuminated, he uses his unique perspective to tease apart life s most mystifying subject.Drawing from the 50,000 tales of love that have crossed his desk, Jones traces the arc of human relationships through ten phases, starting with the pursuit, sense of destiny, vulnerability, connection, and trust of new love, and then turning to the practicality, monotony, infidelity, loyalty, and wisdom of love matured With empathy and wry humor, he takes readers on an enlightening journey through the highs, lows, and enduring unknowns of this universal experience that rattles the head and stirs the heart.

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    1. LOVED IT! Jones has been the editor of the New York Times' revered Modern Love column for 10 years, and the book provides a nuanced look at the ups, downs and nitty gritty of life, love and relationships in the modern world. An excerpt I particularly liked:"We all have failings and insecurities—physical and emotional scars—that we're trying to hide or at least de-emphasize early in a relationship. I can't say when the best time is to come clean and become fully vulnerable; no one can.What I [...]

    2. I had high hopes for this book, a Valentine's gift from James, and I was not disappointed. The Modern Love column is one of my favorite things to read, and it was fun to recognize references to pieces I've read in the book. I was also pleasantly surprised by how funny the writing was. Despite the title, this book doesn't take itself too seriously or aim to provide a secret insight we all need. It's mostly just amusing reflections on lots of very interesting stories of love.

    3. A pragmatic, amusing view of romantic love by NY Times editor, Daniel Jones." we poke, prod, analyse, and theorize, let's not get so carried away in our push for answers that we end up with a cold carcass on our hands. Let's try to embrace love's complexities as much as we try to explain them away. And let's make sure we step back every so often, with humility, to marvel at the mystery of what love does best: it helps us to be good."

    4. A year ago, I was in a bookshop in the Vancouver International Airport trying to pick a good read for my journey to South Africa to get married to my best friend. As I browsed the shelves, I came across a book called “Love Illuminated: Exploring Life’s Most Mystifying Subject with the help of 50,00 strangers” by Daniel Jones, who has been the editor of the New York Times Modern Love column for the last ten years. As I stood in front of the shelf debating whether I wanted to spend $20 on th [...]

    5. Daniel Jones has given us one of the most enjoyable transparent texts on the subject, without being overly Psychoanalytic, Anthropologic, faith-based, or, thank God, Leo Buscaglia-ish. With his unassuming almost self-deprecating POV, and correspondence from 50,000 contributing readers, he helps his readers navigate the traditional as well as the modern scenarios that we are forever prone to entangle ourselves in as we struggle to find intimacy. A rare book on the topic that men will enjoy, not u [...]

    6. I’ve always enjoyed the Modern Love column in the New York Times, I suspect partly because as someone who finds the idea of a traditional relationship with his and hers towels and a white picket fence very off-putting, I liked the variety of relationships addressed and the fact that as often as not, they didn’t end with two people holding hands watching the sun set. In column form, Modern Love works great. In book form, not so much. Daniel Jones has an easy-to-read style, and he does a good [...]

    7. Not very illuminating. I was expecting an exploration of the insights gained about relationships from the Modern Love columns. I suppose the book was that. But the author’s tone was inconsistent, and ultimately off-putting. At times he is completely sincere and personal, as when he is sharing stories about his own marriage or empathizing with the subjects of his columns. But at other times it is difficult to tell if he is being sarcastic or condoning the behavior of subjects who engage in ques [...]

    8. My interest in the book came from listening to the NPR segment hereandnow.wbur/2014/02/12Most of the book is reflecting on the thousands of reader stories from the NYT Modern Love column. But this all breaks down in chapters seven (Monotony) and eight (Infidelity). Then the author breaks the working formula to present the tired, dated, judgemental and whiny attitudes of him and his wife, Cathi. Those two chapters ruin the book. The author is definitely pro-monogamy and a bit of a misogynist. Wom [...]

    9. Good compilation of wisdom from the popular columnAs a devoted Modern Love reader, I was excited to see how Jones would share all the things he has "learned" about love. Overall, a great read if you want to explore a bit me about the world of love and its place in your life. The sections on monogamy and passion and cheating were a little off for me, but that could just be my own life/love experience affecting my read. The conclusion was interesting, do we feel love our choose love? Still contemp [...]

    10. More like 3.5 stars. I think this book would be better publicized as a group of essays. It was interesting, but didn't really hang together or have a cohesive point of view. I really enjoyed the look into virtual/internet dating, as I met my husband long before the widespread use of cell phones/texting, and the existence of Facebook, Twitter and Match, etc. I am looking forward to hearing the author at the JLR's Book & Author -- I think he will be a great speaker!

    11. The best part of this book, besides the discussion of the Modern Love column in the New York Times, was Jones's story of how he met his wife, Cathi. There was a real magic to how it happened and how it turned out.

    12. Though I suppose it was semi insightful it just seemed a little boring. All the stories seemed made up and lackluster and a lot of it seemed slighty out of touch. A lot of good points were brought up though and I overall liked the author, and his relationship with his wife, which was refreshing.

    13. Good read but I finished the book not more advanced about Love and why it eludes us. Also, I found the section about what family name to give your children just a filler.Good but not great. Left me wanting morejust like Love!

    14. One of the worst relationship books I've ever read :-/ and I have read many. The writing, sub par at best. Many of the topics, boring and just simple logic.

    15. This was a pretty quick read, but not very memorable. The part that stuck with me was the story of Jones' own marriage, but I didn't find the other anecdotes as compelling as the Modern Love essays Jones compiled in a previous book

    16. I have a different worldview than the author, and I let that taint my initial outlook. Once I began, I greatly appreciated his fellow-traveler tone throughout. When the topic veered into those few moments our world views drastically diverge, I just skimmed through those paragraphs or pgs, which only happened 3-4x. Glad I got this.

    17. Fifty thousand people seems like an awfully small sample size on a topic as big as love, but I think there’s something in Love Illuminated that will speak to an audience as vast and as amorphous as the topic itself. Daniel Jones curates us through what his years as the editor of the New York Times’ Modern Love column has taught him about this most central of human conditions.“Love” can be a hard concept to pin down. To Jones’ credit, he doesn’t try to do so, and his admirable effort [...]

    18. Reading this book felt a bit like sipping a cappuccino with a heart design in the milk-foam: by the time you get to the bottom, you'll have consumed some coffee, but the drinking experience mostly consists of progressing through layers of froth. Depending on your tastes, this might be exactly what you enjoy. I was left a bit unsatisfied, myself.Jones explores some of the common relationship issues people face in the 21st century by weaving together a couple dozen different love stories. Lest we [...]

    19. A quick and easy read by the editor of the New York Times column Modern Love. The author combines his opinions with stories from people that have written to him over the years. The book has 10 chapters, each an aspect of love: pursuit, destiny, vulnerability, connection, trust, practicality, monotony, infidelity, loyalty, and wisdom. It's an entertaining book that reminds us of how much most people have in common when it comes to desires and hopes and fears around love. He doesn't seem to believ [...]

    20. I liked this quick breeze of a read on an ever-favorite topic (love - more specifically, romantic relationships), but do not confuse this as encompassing all of the Modern Love column itself - which is much more expansive, and also a lot more personal. What Daniel Jones has done is let us know what HE has taken away from the thousands of essays he has read in the past 9 years. So for every review that complains the book isn't very inclusive, is limited in its views, etc well it was never meant t [...]

    21. The editor of the New York Times' Modern Love column distills the wisdom gleaned from reading 50,000 submissions on the subject. It's a quick and entertaining read with plenty of anecdotes. Daniel Jones attempts to make it something of a self help book by asking provocative questions aimed at getting you to examine your own ideas about love and relationships. (is love a feeling or a choice?) Nothing earth shattering here, but he has a few provocative conclusions, such as the view that using an o [...]

    22. It was February so why not read a book about love, right?It seemed fitting, and it was something I wanted to read about because I have been thinking about the topic a fair amount lately. I have been thinking about love because it has been a while since the romantic version has found it's way into my life, and I believe there is plenty of room for it currently. So why not read about it, couple this with reading Modern Romance, and soon I will be an expert on the subjecthahaha As someone that does [...]

    23. Daniel Jones has spent nearly a decade reading the love stories of 50,000 people, and he tries to gather the lessons he's learned through that experience into this book.I think it works. Jones admits right off the bat that he isn't a love expert -- he's simply someone who has a perspective of love that most people will never get. He takes on the task with humor and never gets preachy about this subject, like some other books are wont to do. Sometimes, he tries to hard to make his metaphors work, [...]

    24. Perhaps it's the word count or the high expectations I have for it every Sunday, but after reading Love Illuminated I found myself liking Daniel Jones's weekly Modern Love column a bit better. That's not to say that Love Illuminated is a bad read. To the contrary, Jones does a great job of addressing a subject we all address at some point in a quick and easily feasible prose that carries the reader along through a series of vignettes and personal reflections from his own experience. I'd recommen [...]

    25. Love is in high demand. We’re either searching for love, holding on to it and even trying to revive love. New York Times columnist Daniel Jones has probably heard more than his fair share of love stories thanks to his his “Modern Love” column. His book Love Illuminated: Exploring Life’s Most Mystifying Subject (with the Help of 50,000 Strangers) explores ten different aspects about love.When writing about this weighty subject, it might be too easy to use cliches to describe love, but not [...]

    26. I truly enjoy reading research on love and other individuals interpretations of something that science can not explain. I always felt love was a mathematical equation but now I can see why many may view it as a question of logic and reasond plain irrationality and your mind playing tricks on you. I enjoyed reading this book because Jones took all of the letters he received from his column and pointed out any common themes. At times, his writing was humorous and self-depreciating which is appreci [...]

    27. An interesting look at modern relationships, their pitfalls, their hangups, and all the things we tell ourselves to get through them. This isn't a self-help book. It offers no answers, just an outsider's perspective. It's kind of like reading your diary 20 years later. You can clearly see all the ways you've messed up and all the wrong turns you made in your thinking, but you can also appreciate the journey and release the judgment. If this book helps with anything, it's that 20/20 perspective o [...]

    28. I expected love stories, instead got love lessons. Still, author's witty writing and new perspectives on "living, breathing creature that we're repeatedly capturing, anesthetizing, and experimenting upon in our eagerness to discover what it's made of, to tame it with our systems and rules, and then to send it back into the wilderness with a GPS-enabled tracking collar in the hope that we'll be able to find it easier next time and understand it better when we do." kinda helped me understand that [...]

    29. Perhaps my issues with the book are that I don't think most of what is covered in it isn't basic knowledge. I did, however, find the mini-section on "office spouse" to be a thoughtful inclusion, as there are those who struggle with it, and other couples that find it true. I particularly liked the fact that Jones pointed out the "dangerous topics to avoid with an office spouse", as well as pointing out that the economic struggles of our society make office spouses a less common thing because of c [...]

    30. I enjoyed this author's writing style - very Malcolm Gladwell-esque (he even mentions Malcolm Gladwell at one point) - but there's not a lot of "there there", which I was expecting. Mostly he just raises interesting questions and offers some opinions, but they aren't particularly well researched (but he doesn't claim to have researched well). The book is based on his experience editing the Modern Love column from the New York times. It's a quick read and interesting enough to be worth the time.

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