Modern Romance: An Investigation

Modern Romance An Investigation A hilarious thoughtful and in depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation s most popular and sharpest comedic voicesAt some point every one of us emb

  • Title: Modern Romance: An Investigation
  • Author: Aziz Ansari Eric Klinenberg
  • ISBN: null
  • Page: 392
  • Format: Audible Audio
  • A hilarious, thoughtful, and in depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation s most popular and sharpest comedic voicesAt some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection This seemsA hilarious, thoughtful, and in depth exploration of the pleasures and perils of modern romance from one of this generation s most popular and sharpest comedic voicesAt some point, every one of us embarks on a journey to find love We meet people, date, get into and out of relationships, all with the hope of finding someone with whom we share a deep connection This seems standard now, but it s wildly different from what people did even just decades ago Single people today have romantic options than at any point in human history With technology, our abilities to connect with and sort through these options are staggering So why are so many people frustrated Some of our problems are unique to our time Why did this guy just text me an emoji of a pizza Should I go out with this girl even though she listed Combos as one of her favorite snack foods Combos My girlfriend just got a message from some dude named Nathan Who s Nathan Did he just send her a photo of his penis Should I check just to be sure But the transformation of our romantic lives can t be explained by technology alone In a short period of time, the whole culture of finding love has changed dramatically A few decades ago, people would find a decent person who lived in their neighborhood Their families would meet and, after deciding neither party seemed like a murderer, they would get married and soon have a kid, all by the time they were twenty four Today, people marry later than ever and spend years of their lives on a quest to find the perfect person, a soul mate.For years, Aziz Ansari has been aiming his comic insight at modern romance, but for Modern Romance, the book, he decided he needed to take things to another level He teamed up with NYU sociologist Eric Klinenberg and designed a massive research project, including hundreds of interviews and focus groups conducted everywhere from Tokyo to Buenos Aires to Wichita They analyzed behavioral data and surveys and created their own online research forum on Reddit, which drew thousands of messages They enlisted the world s leading social scientists, including Eli Finkel, Helen Fisher, Sheena Iyengar, Barry Schwartz, Sherry Turkle, and Robb Willer The result is unlike any social science or humor book we ve seen before.In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.

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    1. So, this isn't really a humorous book about Aziz Ansari's dating experiences, it's more like a book about dating in the modern world, written by the very humorous Aziz Ansari.I was introduced to Aziz's stand-up by my oldest son, and I've been hooked on him ever since. He's hilarious, and if you haven't seen him perform you're missing out. Which makes me wish I'd listened to this as an audiobookTurns out, Aziz and his partner, Eric Klinenberg, did quite a bit of research for this book. Now, is it [...]

    2. Find all of my reviews at: 52bookminimum/3.5 StarsModern Romance went on my TBR as soon as I heard rumors of its existence. We’re talking about waiting months for this damn thing (and also never being able to track down an ARC) . . . Quick confession – I never bothered reading the synopsis for this book. I saw Aziz Ansari had a “romance” book coming out and my brain immediately thought it would be something like “Tom Haverford’s Guide to Dating” . . . If I would have bothered readi [...]

    3. I got married in 1989. In India in those days, "love" marriages were still exceptions rather than the norm: when you had to look at the religion, caste, family background, and age of a possible partner who was to share your life (divorces were absolute stigma!) before hitching up, falling in love was like solving a mathematical equation with too many constraints. For a nerdy, uncouth, shy and bookish youngster who got tongue-tied in presence of a halfway-pretty girl, this was even more of a nigh [...]

    4. As a single woman I feel like Aziz Ansari knows my pain. Yes I am single by choice ( not my choice, but still a choice) , He knows how unpleasant it is to stare impotently at a screen waiting for a message that never arrives “we all have Tanya on our phones” The hours slouched by. “I’m so stupid!” he writes. “I should have typed ‘Hey’ with two y’s, not just one!” Later: “Did Tanya’s phone fall into a river/trash compactor/volcano? Did Tanya fall into a river/trash compact [...]

    5. I am a satisfied single.I did not coin that term, I did hear it from somewhere, but I don’t remember who said it. Sorry person who said it. Anywaywhat this means to me is that I’m fine with being on my own. It’s easy. Would I like to meet ‘the love of my life’ or ‘the man of my dreams’ my 'soul mate' if you will? Sure, I’d be alright with that, in fact it would be great. But I'm not holding my breath.Am I willing to spend hours and hours poring over profiles, reading messages fro [...]

    6. At the beginning of the audiobook, Aziz joked with 'us listeners', about being "Lazy People"o lazy to sit down and read a book. He not only had to write the book, but now he 'had' to read it us us too! Aziz is entertaining and hilarious no questions about it. Love the guy! By the end of my 'lazy- listening' I came to the conclusion that Aziz brought playfulness and lightness to the game called "Modern Dating". However 'everyone' could benefit listening to this audio tape if you plan to continue [...]

    7. Aziz Ansari is a funny guy. I've enjoyed his work as an actor and a comedian, so I shouldn't have been surprised when I really liked his book. But I was surprised, especially when I learned that he had teamed up with a sociologist and did actual research on modern romance. Aziz was interested in how technology has changed dating culture, and he opens the book with a funny story about a girl, Tanya, who didn't text him back after he had asked her out. He realizes that texting and social media and [...]

    8. i posted, i posted, i posted! plz be proud of me. link here: emmareadstoomuch.wordpress------------Disclaimer: I have the biggest crush on Aziz Ansari. Can anyone blame me? He’s like a humor magician. Parks & Rec, flawless standup specials, MASTER OF NONE, and this book. What a track record.Anyway. I could never claim to be unbiased on this subject. It’s now clear that what I thought was a post-season 2 Master of None hangover is justrt of me now. I am destined for an existence of crushi [...]

    9. Startlingly inessential.Early on, Ansari makes a somewhat baffling statement that he felt compelled to write this book because there wasn't any other literature on modern dating culture-- a topic explored ad nauseum in newspaper thinkpieces, podcasts, and other disposable pop science bestsellers (many of which he goes on to reference throughout the book). He also mentions that he rejected the idea of writing a strictly humorous book because he feels like his stand-up is a more comfortable medium [...]

    10. Bravo to comic and actor Aziz Ansari for not writing just another memoir-by-someone-who’s-sorta-famous-but-hasn’t-lived-long-enough-to-really-warrant-one. I’ve read a number of them (good: Bossypants; okay: Is Everyone Hanging Out Without Me?; abandoned: sorry, Lena Dunham).Modern Romance is about dating in the digital age. Getting to know people has evolved significantly even over the past few years. Dating sites, swipe apps like Tinder and sexting are a far cry from how people used to me [...]

    11. I came into this not expecting much, but this was fascinating! I picked it up without reading the description, so I was pleasantly surprised to find the majority of this is based on psych studies. If you're interested in the psychology behind modern dating, I highly recommend. Definitley listen to this as an audiobook.It also left me more depressed about being single, but heigh-ho!

    12. In Modern Romance, Ansari combines his irreverent humor with cutting-edge social science to give us an unforgettable tour of our new romantic world.“The world is available to us, but that may be the problem.”Fun fact: I actually started 2017 with this read, but at the time it didn't feel relevant enough for me to get the most out of it, so I put the book down. Fast forward to November, when I discovered the wonder that is the Hidden Brain podcast, where it featured an episode with Aziz A [...]

    13. "Modern Romance" straddles the line of being funny and serious. It doesn't commit (get the pun?) one way or the other, and so, falls flat on both fronts. This is especially unsatisfying as I love Aziz and his work. Perhaps it's with this high expectation and skewed notion of what this book could have been that made it all the more disheartening. The quicker you accept the fact that "Modern Romance" isn't what you wished it was, the easier you'll find yourself enjoying it a little more.It isn't a [...]

    14. The knowledge offered in this book is pretty common and obvious, nothing you haven't read online/heard on a podcast. But some anecdotes, especially about dating in other countries/cultures are funny and interesting.I am glad I listened to an audio narrated by Ansari himself. I can't imagine reading the book on my own, to be honest.

    15. Alright audiobook listen although Aziz berates you for listening to the audiobook instead of reading itIZ YOU DON'T KNOW MY LIFE.

    16. 3.5 stars, but I rounded up, just because Aziz is hilarious.This was really a very interesting read. Obviously well researched and very insightful. It was funny, for me, reading about the way romance was done before the technology we have today and in modern times, because I went through my teens in a gap time I guess. I grew up in the 90's and early 00's, so I didn't have my own cell phone until I was closer to an adult and even these days, I'm not big into social media (GR is about it for my s [...]

    17. Ok, so I picked this up thinking this was going to be a Aziz Ansari version of a Steve Harvey book. You know the kind with advice like "Ladies, don't call him back right away!" kind of thing. This is not that kind of book. Ansari worked with a sociologist to look at love in the modern age. He covers everything from texting to sexting to Tinder and how love/romance has changed due to technology. I really like that the book took a more academic approach. Because it's Aziz, it's also still funny. I [...]

    18. This book is more insightful than I first anticipated. It is a funny book indeed, but the focus group discussions and other researches that discussed in this book are good for my own thinking and introspection.

    19. I've been so behind on my reviewing these days, but I had so much fun with this one I wanted to make sure I didn't let it fall through the dark cracks into the swirling abyss where my non-reviewed books go. I'm a huge fan of Ansari. I think he's cute as a button and funny as goddamn hell. I watched him in Parks & Rec, his most recent Netflix original Master of None (which I highly recommend), and thoroughly enjoy his stand-up concerts. He's not at the same level as Louis CK or Patton Oswalt, [...]

    20. Instagram || Twitter || Facebook || || PinterestThere are a lot of books that I am interested in reading but don't really get around to unless the book is selected by a book club or for a buddy read. This is because sites like and have made the whole prospect of choosing a book so stressful. Up-and-coming books, out-of-print books, esoteric books from small presses - there are so many options. Before , I would select books based on the cover, the synopsis on the back cover, and whether I reco [...]

    21. One firm takeaway from all our interviews with women is that most dudes out there are straight-up bozos.My introduction to modern romance was abrupt and unexpected. I was back in New York for the holidays, drinking with a few friends, sipping and gulping the wonderful IPAs that I miss when I’m here in Spain. Sometime deep into the night, one of my friends, who is a gay man—this is relevant to the story; you should also know that I’m a straight guy—asked if anyone wanted to go on his Tind [...]

    22. ”O Amor nos Tempos Modernos” é uma obra literária escrita por Aziz Ansari (n. 1983), um actor e comediante, que começou a sua carreira em stand-up comedy em Nova Iorque, em parceira com Eric Klinenberg (n. 1970), um investigador e professor de Sociologia na Universidade de Nova Iorque. ”Convidar alguém para sair é uma tarefa simples que muitas vezes se transforma numa aterradora incógnita povoada de medo, dúvidas e ansiedade. Está pejada de decisões difíceis: Como é que faço o [...]

    23. Aziz has written a book on romance and dating in the 21st Century and he wants us all to take him seriously. I know what you're thinking, and so did Aziz, "Another comedian book, another fluffed out 200 page book with anecdotes that probably didn't happen". This is not that type of book at all.Aziz was interested in how dating works these days and decided to team up with a proper social scientist to do some research. And it seems like he was heavily invested in it all. The new research that Aziz [...]

    24. Omg what fucking yawnfest. I'm so pissed at how misleading the book description is. In it this book is called "hilarious". Can someone point me to the hilarious part in the book? All it got out of me was couple of giggles and a snort. DNF at 50%.I just want to say that I'm fan of Ansari, as an actor and a comedian, but this book felt more like a lecture, with a couple of giggle-worthy comments thrown in. The book is not badly written, at all. Aziz uses a lot research and material from interviews [...]

    25. Os Novos Ménages à TroisNos tempos que correm, os relacionamentos são triângulos amorosos , em que o vértice é um objecto inanimado que varia de acordo com as preferências: Smartphone, Tablet , Laptop ele está lá sempre, fiel e pronto a servir!Apitando, teclando, tocando, falando, vibrando ele é o Cupido e o Escravo imprescindível das relações amorosas atuais.Tem Vantagens? Bastantes! ;)Desvantagens? Algumas!Numa abordagem plena de humor, Aziz Ansari mostra-nos como as novas tecnol [...]

    26. Are you single?Are you in a relationship?Do you use a cellphone?Have you ever had a conversation with someone older or younger than you about technology ruining/not ruining society? Do you ever wonder why people don't text you back within moments of you texting them despite the fact that you can see that they've read the text? If any of this applies to you, then you need to do yourself a favour and dig into Aziz Ansari's book. This gorgeously bound book beautifully dodges all the pitfalls of a n [...]

    27. Actual rating 4.5 stars ----------Well I don't know what I was thinking when I picked this (audio)book up, but Modern Romance wasn't it. I really like this! It was super interesting and I feel like I learned a lot about the history of romance and how it's changed with technology. Being a person who was been off the market since 2006, a lot of this stuff was news to me, lol - I really enjoyed how Aziz talked to people of all ages and all around the world. This is not your typical comedian-memoir [...]

    28. There's a reason why aptly put this book in a non-fiction category in this year Choice Awards, while it could've easily been in the humor section. The thing is, much like his brilliant new series Master of None, the comedy's there, but not as a central point. Instead, it was being used as an accessory for Aziz to make an interesting topic become more engaging.If there's one downside is that the book can be repetitive at times. He often wrote something that was pretty much in lieu with what he [...]

    29. كتاب عاشقانه هاي مدرن، يك تحقيق خوب از سير تكامل و روند روابط عاشقانه هستبيشتر تمركز كتاب در ادامه روي نحوه تاثير تكنولوژي روي اين مدل رابطه ها هست. از سايت هاي دوست يابي گرفته تا اپليكيشن هاي موبايل و همچنين درس هاي مختصري داره كه چه طور از اين رسانه ها به بهترين شكل استفاده ك [...]

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