A Grief Observed

A Grief Observed Written with love humility and faith this brief but poignant volume was first published in and concerns the death of C S Lewis s wife the American born poet Joy Davidman In her introduction t

A Grief Observed A Grief Observed is a collection of C S Lewis s reflections on the experience of bereavement following the death of his wife, Joy Davidman, in .The book was first published in under the pseudonym N.W Clerk, as Lewis wished to avoid identification as the author Though republished in , after his death, under his own name, the text still refers to his wife as H her first A Grief Observed C S Lewis, Madeleine L Engle A Grief Observed C S Lewis, Madeleine L Engle on FREE shipping on qualifying offers Written after his wife s tragic death as a way of surviving the mad midnight moment, A Grief Observed is C.S Lewis s honest reflection on the fundamental issues of life A Grief Observed Kindle edition by C S Lewis A classic work on grief, A Grief Observed is C.S Lewis s honest reflection on the fundamental issues of life, death, and faith in the midst of loss.Written after his wife s tragic death as a way of surviving the mad midnight moments, A Grief Observed an unflinchingly truthful account of how loss can lead even a stalwart believer to lose all sense of meaning in the universe, and the Pain and Grief Official Site CSLewis The suffering of life doesn t seem to pair with the goodness of God I like to quote Anton Chekhov, the famous Russian short story writer and a Christian. Grief Grief is a multifaceted response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something that has died, to which a bond or affection was formed Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, cultural, spiritual and philosophical dimensions. Judaism Life, Death and Mourning Life In Judaism, life is valued above almost all else The Talmud notes that all people are descended from a single person, thus taking a single life is like destroying an entire world, and saving a single life is like saving an entire world Of the commandments, only the prohibitions against murder, idolatry, incest and adultery are so important that they cannot be violated to save a life. The nature of complicated grief John Wilson The controversial nature of complicated grief You do not have to study bereavement theory for very long before you meet lively discussions around complicated grief, often referred to as CG, an abbreviation we will adopt here. Transformation of Grief through Meaning Meaning Centered Grief is an inevitable, universal experience, commonly experienced than death So much of life is about loss Going through life is to endure a series of losses, which include the loss of health, roles, identity, homeland, and loved ones through betrayal or death. Grief and Mourning in Cross Cultural Perspective rituals Grief Varies with Culture Cross cultural study looks outward, seeking an opening to the varieties of cultural expression around the world but it also looks inward, because an understanding of others can enrich our understanding of our own culture. Wonderful Reader Comments on Grief A Cup of Jo We ve shared wise and wonderful reader comments on dating, career and parenting, but today we d like to talk about something intimate loss, including a kind thing to do for someone in grief On grieving as long as you want Our daughter died at six months old That was years ago, and we still carry it

  • Title: A Grief Observed
  • Author: C.S. Lewis
  • ISBN: null
  • Page: 349
  • Format: Paperback
  • Written with love, humility, and faith, this brief but poignant volume was first published in 1961 and concerns the death of C S Lewis s wife, the American born poet Joy Davidman In her introduction to this new edition, Madeleine L Engle writes I am grateful to Lewis for having the courage to yell, to doubt, to kick at God in angry violence This is a part of a healthWritten with love, humility, and faith, this brief but poignant volume was first published in 1961 and concerns the death of C S Lewis s wife, the American born poet Joy Davidman In her introduction to this new edition, Madeleine L Engle writes I am grateful to Lewis for having the courage to yell, to doubt, to kick at God in angry violence This is a part of a healthy grief which is not often encouraged It is helpful indeed that C S Lewis, who has been such a successful apologist for Christianity, should have the courage to admit doubt about what he has so superbly proclaimed It gives us permission to admit our own doubts, our own angers and anguishes, and to know that they are part of the soul s growth Written in longhand in notebooks that Lewis found in his home, A Grief Observed probes the mad midnight moments of Lewis s mourning and loss, moments in which he questioned what he had previously believed about life and death, marriage, and even God Indecision and self pity assailed Lewis We are under the harrow and can t escape, he writes I know that the thing I want is exactly the thing I can never get The old life, the jokes, the drinks, the arguments, the lovemaking, the tiny, heartbreaking commonplace Writing A Grief Observed as a defense against total collapse, a safety valve, he came to recognize that bereavement is a universal and integral part of our experience of love Lewis writes his statement of faith with precision, humor, and grace Yet neither is Lewis reluctant to confess his continuing doubts and his awareness of his own human frailty This is precisely the quality which suggests that A Grief Observed may become among the great devotional books of our age.

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    1. To begin with, let me offer you my condolences. If you’ve come here to read about C.S. Lewis’s A Grief Observed, you’re probably doing it for a specific reason. It’s not the thing you reach for in times of sunshine and cloudless days and a future of beautiful forevers. It’s the thing you reach for when you are casting about in the dark, looking for something, anything, that might help. So, I am sorry for your loss. For the grief you are experiencing. * * *My grief: On June 22, [...]

    2. Each person's grief is unique. When C.S. Lewis' wife died in 1960, he journaled and took notes, trying to observe his bereavement. This is a short but meaningful read; it is less than 100 pages, but it took me several days to finish because I frequently had to put the book down and contemplate certain passages.Lewis often wrote and spoke about his Christianity, and this book has meditations on God and faith and purpose. I am not a religious person, so another reader may find these sections more [...]

    3. از هر چشم اندازی که به مرگ بنگریم، بدین معنی است که تمام تجربیات به پایان رسیده اند و مربوط به قلمرو گذشته اند و گذشته،گذشته است. معنی زمان نیز همین است،زمان عنوانی دیگر است برای مرگ و بهشت نیزبهشت نیز وضعیتی است که تمام چیزهای پیشین درگذشته انددرباره نویسنده عموما سی اس لوئیس [...]

    4. Hacía tiempo que quería leer este libro y realmente me alegro de haberlo hecho. Un libro, sea dicho de paso, que se lee en una hora. A simple vista, podríamos decir que el argumento de la historia es muy sencillo: el duelo por la muerte de un ser querido y la fe en Dios. Pero en sus páginas nos encontramos con muchas preguntas, a las que cuesta encontrar una respuesta.

    5. CHE DIO PERDONI DIOUn testo fondamentale di quella che mi viene da definire “letteratura del lutto”.Iniziato a scrivere pochi giorni dopo la morte della moglie amatissima - che si chiamava Joy e qui diventa chissà perché H. (c’è da dire che il libro uscì firmato con uno pseudonimo) – e pubblicato solo pochi mesi dopo l’evento. Composto ‘a caldo’.Al caldo del dolore. Rovente, inarrestabile…In questo mi sembra che si differenzia dalla maggior parte, se non forse da tutte le ope [...]

    6. Heartwrenching narrative about death and mourning. Inspiring musings of somebody who have just lost his loved one. Musings that include all phases of grief from shock, pain, acceptance and moving on. He even went to the stage of questioning the existence and love of God but in a way is so thought-provoking even people with strong faith will need to double check his deep-seated beliefs.This 76-page poignant, partly angry and deeply moving journal by Clive Staples (C. S.) Lewis (1898-1963) was fir [...]

    7. Reading this book has resulted in an unknown number of panic attacks. I think that this should be one of the book jacket reviews. How can 73 beautifully deckled pages cause such angst? Words, words, words. I have a confession. I had to read this twice… the first time through I was a bit inebriated. Okay, more than a bit. I felt that I needed a little push to get me over that cliff… It’s almost like the more time passes the more hesitant I am to revisit the grief. Not that those scabs aren [...]

    8. I read this book for the first time something like four years ago. Me, like everyone else who had gone through the loss of a beloved, will surely recognize the same emotions that Lewis describes.It's not easy to give a rational review of this book. It's something like a mirror, reading those words makes you feel like Lewis had been looking into your heart when he wrote them.But this is not only a portrait of loss. It would be reductive to say that he only speaks about his pain. First of all, the [...]

    9. After my wife passed away from cancer and I was in the depths of grief, well meaning friends kept bringing me what I call "victory books." These are books about dealing with the death of a loved one that basically said, "If you were a victorious Christian you would get over this." I wanted to throw those books in the pond behind my house. I hurt bad and I didn't want to get over it! I loved her for 20 years and to just "get over it" was to count her as unimportant in my life. Somehow, and I don' [...]

    10. Favorite Quotes:"I once read the sentence 'I lay awake all night with a toothache, thinking about the toothache an about lying awake.' That's true to life. Part of every misery is, so to speak, the misery's shadow or reflection: the fact that you don't merely suffer but have to keep on thinking about the fact that you suffer. I not only live each endless day in grief, but live each day thinking about living each day in grief.""I see people, as they approach me, trying to make up their minds whet [...]

    11. Saying goodbye to someone who was there beside us our whole lives is just about the hardest thing we ever have to do. “And grief still feels like fear. Perhaps, more strictly, like suspense. Or like waiting; just hanging about waiting for something to happen. It gives life a permanently provisional feeling. It doesn’t seem worth starting anything. I can’t settle down. I yawn, I fidget, I smoke too much. Up till this I always had too little time. Now there is nothing but time. Almost pure t [...]

    12. Do we find a book or does it find us? A Grief Observed seemed to 'find' me when I needed consoling insight after my brother died; C. S. Lewis was foreverafter a friend who not only knew and understood something very profound, but also had been there for me when I needed him.A Grief Observed was also my introduction to the immortal Lewis, having missed the Narnian Chronicles in my childhood. While an improbable first book, Grief is no less excellent for being anomalous. Lewis wrote Grief in respo [...]

    13. ShadowlandsLeggendo Quel che resta del giorno mi sono improvvisamente ricordata, per associazione di idee (vuoi perché il protagonista è sempre Anthony Hopkins, e vuoi perché sono due film, entrambi ambientati in Inghilterra, che ho visto nello stesso periodo al piccolo cinema teatro Arcobaleno su Via Nomentana) di Viaggio in Inghilterra di Richard Attenborough.Ricordavo gli attori, il già citato Hopkins e la sempre bella Debra Winger (attrice da me tanto amata in gioventù); ma non la trama [...]

    14. C.s. Lewis gives us visions on dead not often thought of. In the beginning of the book he is very cynical and embittered. Grieve has overtaken himself as a person. It dominates his daily life. His vision is one of 'with dead the person dies and is no more; neither physical nor metaphysical'. His believe in God crimps.To the end, his vision slightly changes. He revives in daily life. He thinks of the dead person as an reflection of God, in which the person still can exist, also for them who stay [...]

    15. It's hard to rate a book like this - doesn't feel fully appropriate since it's more an internal dialogue through stages of grief than anything else. C.S. Lewis was always a talented writer, whether penning fiction or non, but this is a diary-style jotting of internal reflections during the horrible stages of losing his wife to cancer. Written in mini paragraphs that were apparently sections recorded during his thoughts, I can almost picture him waking up at night and unable to go back to sleep, [...]

    16. As Madeleine L'Engle says in her introduction, “each experience of grief is unique,” and Lewis was a quirky sort of fellow. His grieving for his wife, so dearly cherished during their far-too-brief marriage, is explored through the format of passionate journal entries. As with others of his works, I find that our thoughts on the issue of theodicy – the problem of pain and a benevolent, all-powerful God – aren't quite the same. Still, his experience of the progression of loss and pain, of [...]

    17. Unlike C.S. Lewis, it was my dad whom I lost 17 years ago; but when he said that “grief felt so like fear” in the beginning of his book, I believe I know what he meant ; or, to make it more precise, I think he knows exactly what he’s talking about.A Grief Observed offers a look at a man in deep despair, who doubted God because of it, but eventually emerges with a deep understanding of himself, his love for his departed wife, and of God.In the first part, the question he presented is not [...]

    18. "Every grief is different"Which is so true. I think Douglas H. Gresham rightly notes in his Introduction to this book that the article is an important part of the title. This is A Grief Observed. It is Lewis's own personal struggle and discovery. Yet at the same time, grief is recognizable. We share something when we grieve, something that transcends specific circumstances. Lewis touches that.He is so emotional in this book that it shocked me. This isn't the Lewis I recognize, yet at the same ti [...]

    19. Original post at One More PageJust yesterday, I was chatting with one of my best friends who is also my old household head in Youth for Christ (YFC). She was telling me about her latest Kindle purchase (if you're curious, it's Cassandra Clare's Clockwork Angel). I told her about how I was reading A Grief Observed in my Kindle, and added that I wanted to buy other C.S. Lewis books there, too, because I realized that his books are a bit too expensive if I buy it here in full price, and I don't rea [...]

    20. This was one of the greatest books I've read this year. Man! This was outstanding. Wow. I can't say enough about the wisdom and insight embedded in these pages. I love short, pithy, and thoughtful works. Concentrated thought can go so far. Add a little water and it expands into a meal. There might be more here than in a book of a 1,000 pages. My favorite writing of Lewis' is his novel Till We Have Faces. TWHF is about the grief that follows loss, and in this story Lewis nails it in stunning fash [...]

    21. It is difficult for a practicing Christian to write a book about losing a beloved wife without sounding a bit too pat to someone whose beliefs are different. And yet, I do think Lewis was honest with himself: When his wife Joy died of cancer, his recovery involved a kind of hide and seek with God. Throughout this short book, Lewis maintains his high standards of writing and comes up with such painfully honest observations as the following:Tonight all the hells of young grief have opened again; t [...]

    22. ¿Te diste cuenta en algún momento, amor mío, de lo mucho que te llevaste contigo al morir? Me despojaste hasta de mi pasado, hasta de las cosas que nunca compartimos. La obra más personal de Lewis. Es una constante de tristeza y desolación por la muerte de su esposa. En éste se cuestiona la existencia de Dios y nos muestra cómo sobrelleva su dolor inherente a la soledad. Eramos uña y carne. O, si lo preferís, un solo barco. El motor de proa se fue al garete. Y el motorcito de reserva, q [...]

    23. da non credente mi astengo dalla valutazione di questo scritto, toccante e sincero ma in buona parte costituito da interrogativi e dubbi di un uomo di fede che, davanti ad una grave perdita, vede vacillare le sue certezze; il percorso di elaborazione del lutto non prescinde dalla riconciliazione con dio e per quanto interessante testimonianza non sono nelle condizioni di comprenderlo

    24. Author C.S. Lewis, best known for his work in the fantasy genre writing the Chronicles of Narnia series, unfortunately lost his wife and was told to repress his grief and emotion, keeping up appearances, but in secret he wrote this amazing, sad and very human book consisting of poetry and thoughts he had back at the time.

    25. I read this once before, right after college and appreciated the keen observations of God and man. I read it again just now and appreciate the deep humanness of the pain and agony. I believe this to be Lewis's best book in that it differs so dramatically from his others. It is so rich and honest and painful and hopeful.

    26. I stumbled across this little book in a used bookstore and as I recently lost my mother, I thought it might be just what I needed. It was! This reads like a diary written by Mr. Lewis during the time right after his wife passed away. His stream of thought so closely echoed my own, with all the ups and downs of his emotions. As he struggles to come to terms with this grief in his heart, I connected with so much of what he wrote. And there were so many good quotes that I wrote out and stuck around [...]

    27. Lenkiu galvą prieš C. S. Lewis meistriškumą. Pakutiniu metu skaitinėjau literatūrą apie netektį, ir šioje knygoje radau tai, ko ieškojau. Tai gyvas, išjaustas, išbūtas sielvartas. Ištvertas sielvartas. Tikrąja to žodžio prasme. Skaudus, piktas, kupinas liūdesio ir ilgesio. Tikras. Jautrus. Drąsus. Nusivylęs. Aišku, mano apibūdinimai toli gražu neperteiks autoriaus meistriškumo. Tad imkit ir skaitykit. Manau, nesigailėsit. O aš eisiu ieškoti, kur šią knygą galėčiau [...]

    28. I appreciate that this book is titled “A” Grief Observed, and not “Grief Observed;” that Lewis attempts to describe the specific grief he suffers after the death of his wife, and that he is not attempting to describe all grief. I believe it is due to detailing this particular grief that Lewis has managed to write a universally useful observation that allows the reader to relate to the thoughts and anguish found in these pages. The very fact that he isn't attempting to describe my grief, [...]

    29. Si en Morir Schnitzler mostraba lo que sucede antes de que uno de los dos miembros de una pareja fallezca a resultas de una enfermedad terminal, aquí, C.S. Lewis plantea lo que viene después: la gestión del duelo, la observación y desentrañamiento de la pena que siente el viudo, quien trata de aclarar sus ideas y pensamientos sobre el papel, mediante unos escritos en los que afirma y se desmiente. Una narración que se construye sobre tres elementos: él, ella (H) y Dios. Una confesión don [...]

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